Today I met Prats after a long time. She visited India after a long.
She has been in UK for quite a while now. She is a classic case of Indian kids raised abroad.
She was partly raised there and partly in India.
We share so much in common. Most of it stems from the way we were brought up, the way our families function.
And its strange, but our thinking, which is on similar lines.
The latest thing on both of our minds is...we are seeking for our space....and our families feel we are not listening to them...at all!!
The issue comes up in various things like choosing our education...choosing career or choosing life partner...how we should dress...whom we should be friends with....
I dont know...its like they dont approve of our logic and we dont approve of theirs..
Most of the time what they want us to opt for is like a secure option....something which has been tried and tested enough...like may be engineering or medical...you know....
For everything we choose, they have some better (safer) option to suggest... and right now we really dont want suggestions...dont want anything ready on platter.... we just want to explore...try...make mistake...learn
But they somehow think that they own us I guess....the acceptance that we are grown up individuals and we can and we should take our decisions....that let go of us to certain extent just doesnt come to them....
Or may be.....its just that our generation is more self centred...I am afraid I am generalising a bit too much... but this impression has been gathered from observing a lot of my friends and myself
I mean if my mom dad wouldnt have compromised upon all the freedom that they wanted, I am sure I wont be in a position to be able to seek whatever space that I seem to be looking for. They also would have loved to explore and try things but they focused on stability. And they earned it hard way enough.
I guess we (the children gen) all lack that much patience, tolerance, tenacity, perseverance....
And I even end up thinking that we are not doing justice to all the close relations...
But then surrendering to the ideas which we dont believe in....is too much to ask for from ourselves
I wish our society encouraged more thinking and was more open to questions....and didnt ask everyone to follow everything just blindly and I wish what we chose after giving our version of thoughts was accepted more openly...
